Can You Have A Platonic Relationship?

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Can You Have A Platonic Relationship?

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A much asked question this. (Especially when a woman finds out that her man has been having lunch with the same "colleague" rather frequently.)

I say you can.

I once had a great friendship with a female colleague which all went horribly sour when we started having an affair. We quickly knocked the affair on the head, went back to being just good friends and we get on far better that way.

Or is it just that I'm a cr*p boyfrined?
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In theory you should be able to do it. I think it helps if the friend is hideously unattractive! I had thought I had a great platonic relationship that went all wrong because I found out he felt differently. Then it makes you all squirmy and you just have to not see them anymore, and your husband goes I told you so and you decide not to bother any more because there is nothing worse than feeling jealous and I wouldn't want to make my husband feel like that.

So, basically, why bother. It just leads to hassle. Women eat lunch too, and are funny.
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i manage it with most of my male friends. at least from my point of view the friedhip is plutonic
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I have several platonic male friends - a couple of them are single and a couple married to women I know with whom I am also friends. In fact my oldest (as in longest-known) friend is male.

I think it depends on the individual (not necessarily the attractiveness or otherwise as far as I'm concerned.) If you allow flirting and an undercurrent or attraction to permeate through, it does change things. If you simply see each other as mates, then it can work.

mind you, I have sometimes wondered whether being told I am "one of the lads" and "I don't think of you as a woman" is really a compliment!
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I am a bloke and I have only one male friend who I will happily meet for lunch and just talk b*ll*cks for an hour.

All the other people I meet for lunch are women. I don't know why, but it's so much nicer. They don't want to talk about the horsepower of supercars they can never afford, or camera shutter speeds, or how many giggling-bytes their laptop has, or how enormously big is the TV screen they stare at every night.

Women just want to drink wine, eat food, gossip, laugh, and talk ingenious meandering twaddle.

Like me.
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one of my best mates is a guy!

Nothing has ever happened or will!
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Post by Nabuk »

wills_#1fan! wrote:one of my best mates is a guy!

Nothing has ever happened or will!
But does he know that :smt001
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Post by scouse tiger »

Dont think the 'boss' would believe me if I said I was regularly seeing a lady but it was purely platonic. :smt018

Mind you chance of me doing that would be a fine thing these days!! :smt009

By the way is a plutonic relationship just mickey mouse? :smt002
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scouse tiger wrote: By the way is a plutonic relationship just mickey mouse? :smt002
:supz:

(I've been out with a few dogs in my time.)
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Post by Tank »

in any relationship there gonna be feelings from one to another but its up to those involved if the wanna act on those feelings. plutonic relationships just dont exist
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Post by orla - mumha abú! »

definitely. i have loads of platonic male friends. sometimes i wonder do they even realise im a girl???? but then, i dont really realise they are guys either, know what i mean? to me they are just friends!
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I'm absolutely certain they know you're a girl!

Let's face it, us blokes are perfectly capable of having platonic relationships, but we haven't been neutered.

If I sit with a female friend just having a chat, with no hint of flirting or any kind of come-on, I will still very much notce if she looks attractive.

A boy can't help it. :smt002
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Post by wills_#1fan! »

with some mates, i am known as an honary bloke.

Im not classed as female with them anymore
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Post by simon redshaw »

Sounds strange, Sarah. :smt017

I am sure you would be more then female enough to me.
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Post by orla - mumha abú! »

i know what you mean... i am "one of the lads" these days.
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